Life is natural. To be real human is to be naturally aware without self because awareness is natural, and self is artificial.
You are natural awareness, the phenomenon of knowing, and not the self that arises due to association with known or unknown. The moment you associate with known or unknown, you are no longer naturally aware, and you become unreal.
You are aware due to processes of life and not because of your association with body, mind, emotions, memories, religion, gender, class, caste, race or nationality. Associations are unnatural and artificial due to self-ignorance.
Self is Artificial and Unreal
Feeling of being inner self is subliminal stress due to association with the known or unknown experiences and self is artificial due to association with the known or unknown ideas through beliefs.
Self arises due to psychological self-conception, self-ideation, self-identification, self-image etc. Self is due to association with identities like name, relationships, religion, class, caste, gender, race, nationality, eternal soul, supreme creator etc. Self is a role to be played as part of society.
Feeling of being inner self is due to association with the experiences of vital force, body, sensations, mind, memories, feelings etc. Inner self is subliminal stress to be invoked for survival. Neither self nor inner self are the truth of your nature.
Infant Has No Self
An infant has no psychological association or mind and hence neither has self nor inner self at the beginning of its life. Infant is sensitive without self and hence is not the knower but starts becoming the knower incorrectly with the development of self on basis of ideas imposed on it by society.
Infants develop self by associating with known or known after a certain age as a process of adapting to the demands of society. This association becomes habit, and the infant is hypnotized for life by Self, thus chronically suffering with the subliminal stress in form of inner self. Self is artificial and personal just like a signature.
Awareness is Natural and Real You
Natural truth is that you are awareness, the phenomenon of knowing arising due to your constituent cause and conditions, you become your actions and continue in the effect of your actions.
When you are fully aware there is neither self nor any feeling of being inner self. Awareness is ephemeral arising due to ephemeral cause and conditions of life processes.
Awareness is natural phenomenon of knowing arising due to processes of life just like brightness is phenomenon of illumination due to dispersion of light. Like all phenomenon, you are the ephemeral awareness, empty phenomenon of knowing resulting from cause and conditions. Awareness is a universal and natural just like respiration.
Being Authentic and Aware Without Self or Inner Self
Clear and seamlessly aware, you know clearly in the right context without any activities in the mind. Without activities in the mind, you know as it is in the present without irrelevant biases from your past. Clear and seamlessly aware you are real in the present moment, knowing correctly in the right context.
As a seamlessly clear awareness you know without any reaction or activities in the mind and without inner self, inner knower, inner thinker, inner feeler etc. As seamlessly clear awareness, you by default become your actions without inner doer. There is no duality in you.
As seamlessly clear awareness, you know experiences as they are and your response to the known and unknown is elicited spontaneously according to reality of cause and conditions and not according to self. For example, when you know you are thirsty you drink water as human and not as high caste person choosy about who offers you the water. When someone hits at you, you run away or defend yourself as human and not suffer in silence because you are a servant or woman.
As self, your values and principles are artificially distorted rather than naturally prioritized. As a religious person, you may believe in after life and not focus on living your life to your best. As a religious person, you may believe in divine bliss of heaven and eternal immortal soul but go on struggling to live day-to-day life lustily. As a religious self, you may not live authentic life true to your self.
You are real when you are seamlessly clear awareness without self or feeling of being inner self. Clear and seamlessly aware without self or inner self you live and act authentically.
Being Real Without Self-Ignorance
As self, due to association with identities imposed on you by society, you lack awareness about your real strengths, weakness and why you are the way you are. Naturally aware without self, you know your strengths, weaknesses, values, priorities so that you can fulfill your natural objectives and goals in order to live the long haul of your life meaningfully.
When you do not know yourself correctly in the right context, you are self-ignorant. Self-ignorantly, you may remain immature and may not live and act authentically.
As self, you are rigid in the way you live and act. Self can conflict you with the reality just like trying to live and act according to a mask can conflict you with the reality. Self is state of association and identification with what is dispensable and does not constitute you.
You may conceive a self and impose it on the feeling of being inner self.
Being Real Through Reflecting Awareness as Self Awareness
To be real and authentic and real, you need self-awareness. Self-awareness is a reflecting evolved phenomenon of knowing without inner knower due to your maturity through right cause and conditions of your growth and development.
When you are seamlessly clear awareness, knowing without associating with known or unknown, you get psychologically detached from the known and unknown.
Aware and detached, your knowing reflects and returns back. Detached awareness is awareness of being aware without inner self. Aware and detached, you become aware of being aware. Detached awareness is self-awareness without self or inner self.
With eyes closed, when you are aware in between the eyes without any thoughts in mind and without looking at the darkness in front of eyes, you become aware and detached neither looking nor becoming inner looker.
Detached awareness is result of deeper stress relief due to resolution of inner self and freedom from self. It is like hibernation or deep conscious sleep without activities in mind and without inner self or inner doer. You can only rest and disappear psychologically in the state of detached awareness.
Detached Awareness is your natural richness with deep relaxation and stress relief. It is deeper state of natural fulfilment and peace in which you feel secure in your deeper source.
Dispensable Self and Indispensable Awareness
In meditation, due to dissociation from known and unknown through stress relief, you are fully aware and there is neither self nor inner self.
You can live, act and flourish with awareness without self or feeling of being inner self. You can live, act and flourish without being a national, gender, class, caste, race, religion, self-ideation, self-conception, self-identification etc. Hence there is no self, other than your self-ignorance.
Inner-self is stress and self is ignorance due to which you live and act in a rigid and contrived manner conflicting with the cause and conditions.
You cannot remain wakeful, conscious and aware without breathing or without processes of life. You cannot continue to live, act or flourish for long without cause and conditions of awareness or without knowing correctly in the right context. Hence you are awareness, the phenomenon of knowing arising due to your indispensable constituent cause and conditions.
As awareness you know correctly in the right context without interference of mind and self. As detached awareness, you are dissociated and detached from the known and unknown.
Authentic Life and Skillful Actions Through Being Real
You can either live and act through clear seamless awareness harmoniously with reality of cause and conditions without giving rise to inner self OR you can live and act according to self regardless of reality of cause and conditions. You can relax as detached awareness or you can ruminate mentally as inner self, inner thinker, inner doer, inner feeler etc.
Clearly and seamlessly aware without self, you are fluid, flexible, resourceful and at advantage through knowing correctly in the right context. As self, you are rigid, contriving, less resourceful and feel insecure due to association with known and unknown. As self, you react according to self, whereas, as clear seamless awareness, your response is elicited according to the reality of cause and conditions.
Being real as natural awareness without self, you know yourself well and you live with the great natural flow of life, you act promptly without striving in the right cause and conditions. You leave the right effect and impact of your actions.
Either aware or as self, you are ephemeral because awareness is an empty phenomenon of knowing arising due to constituent cause and conditions whereas self is artificial conception, ideation or identification. There is no eternal immortal inner self independent of cause and conditions.
Since you are ephemeral, supreme creator is irrelevant because you will not be there for getting judged after your death, decay, disintegration and endless recycling of universe.
Since you are ephemeral, you should grow, mature, enjoy life sustainably and get detached. For this you need seamless clarity of detached awareness without self.